tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4214931981342744158.post3945222189942248487..comments2015-09-13T13:03:47.360+05:30Comments on The XX Factor: Morality begins at homeSurbhihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08164279377538053633noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4214931981342744158.post-26449431185776506082009-03-21T03:22:00.000+05:302009-03-21T03:22:00.000+05:30Preeti:Again, I have nothing to say except that I ...Preeti:<BR/>Again, I have nothing to say except that I agree with every word you wrote, and to comment on it would simply be reiterating your points.<BR/>I'll surely get hold of Sudhir Kakar's works and read them.<BR/>I also hope you'll start a blog soon. That'd be another place I'll love to visit.<BR/>Take care! And many thanks for visiting! Keep dropping in!Surbhihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08164279377538053633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4214931981342744158.post-65484682945607618652009-03-01T04:44:00.000+05:302009-03-01T04:44:00.000+05:30Hi Surbhi, A major problem is that most Indian men...Hi Surbhi, <BR/>A major problem is that most Indian men are taught to regard women as inferior and therefore not worthy of respect. Indian women, on the other hand are taught to forgive and excuse evry male transgression, whether it is domestic violence at home or harrassment on the streets. As women, we are expected to overlook male misbehavior and 'adjust'. Indian men expect the world from women but are prepared to give very little in return. Having lived in America, I know that misogyny exists in the developed world too, but violence against women is easier to inflict in India because the law and order machinery is dysfunctional to begin with. I agree with Alankrita, I felt safer in the US, though I had to deal with stray incidents of racism there. But give me racism over gender violence any day. In India, I only feel comfortable in women-only spaces. I distrust most men in India, because a lot of Indian men behave impeccably when they are with their families, but behave abominably when they can hide in the cover of anonymity. Indian mothers are responsible for this male neurosis -- they treat their sons as demi-gods, and these sons grow with huge feelings of entitlement in their interactions with other women, be it wives, other female members of the family, or women in general. The average Indian man is not a very secure individual. Read Sudhir Kakar's research on Indian masculinity. <BR/>PreetiAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4214931981342744158.post-59302619700950830422009-02-07T21:20:00.000+05:302009-02-07T21:20:00.000+05:30Usha:Amen to your second line. We all so hope it h...Usha:<BR/>Amen to your second line. We all so hope it happens sooner than later. Just today my best friend was saying that he thought simply raising our voice was not enough, that we need a solution. And I felt so utterly helpless at that.Surbhihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08164279377538053633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4214931981342744158.post-10256581191175410502009-02-07T21:18:00.000+05:302009-02-07T21:18:00.000+05:30Solilo:Absolutely! I mentioned Kamasutra, saying i...Solilo:<BR/>Absolutely! I mentioned Kamasutra, saying it taught the world that lovemaking is not an act - its an art.<BR/>I just cannot fathom how anyone injuring anyone is not a culpable crime, regardless of who the perpetrator of the crime is.Surbhihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08164279377538053633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4214931981342744158.post-8536535398415043442009-02-07T21:15:00.000+05:302009-02-07T21:15:00.000+05:30Alankrita:Well, we all know now how patriotic the ...Alankrita:<BR/>Well, we all know now how patriotic the $10 laptop has made us feel. You are so right. I hear the constant justification "It also happens in America", as if America is the benchmark for everything, and as if anything is ok as long as it also happens in America.<BR/>As for the issue about comparison with Taliban, I have (seriously) heard someone compare rape with murder and say the former is a tad better since the victim is not dead! Now can you believe that?Surbhihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08164279377538053633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4214931981342744158.post-18468194622140106202009-02-07T15:05:00.000+05:302009-02-07T15:05:00.000+05:30All of what you have so starkly mentioned is so tr...All of what you have so starkly mentioned is so true, so very true, and sadly intensifying as each day progresses...:(<BR/><BR/>Still there has to come a time, when enough is enough, and at lease now I think a few voices such as yours and others and being heard to make a move towards sanity and equality again.<BR/><BR/>But as of now, as you mention, it is just not there, and women, about whom the Vedas said, Where women are respected, there Gods reside, are, in their informed and worthy opinion, no human at all, except when it served for them to find someone to abuse!Usha Pisharodyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08569968324374522544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4214931981342744158.post-18314600508108027392009-02-05T23:10:00.000+05:302009-02-05T23:10:00.000+05:30Surbhi, this is also the land of Kamasutra. We hav...Surbhi, this is also the land of Kamasutra. We have taught the entire world but now we have even problem with a couple holding hand and if one is then they should carry some sort of proof. As usual woman would have a mangalsutra and sindoor. What about men? Oh well! nothing.<BR/><BR/>A girl having a tattoo is a crime but a man with god's images on god knows where and all is fine. <BR/><BR/>Battery too is an internal problem according to police. So don't be surprised if we have more of Kiranjit Ahluwalias because at one time they will lose all control.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4214931981342744158.post-58657532750408169972009-02-05T20:37:00.000+05:302009-02-05T20:37:00.000+05:30You know, Surbhi, wha I find worse is people not t...You know, Surbhi, wha I find worse is people not taking it seriously enough. One of my male friends read my post about me feeling much safer here in the USA and replied with the usual litany of "India is doing better than alot of countires." I even got the 10$ laptop tossed at me, for showing the greatness of India. He says he is a patriotic person. I think the major fault with our people is our ostrichness. We bury our heads in sand and pretend it will go away. It is not wrong to point out mistakes and problems. it is not wrong to apologize. Blustering "we are better than..." and trying to lower he bar of standards is not love for the country anyhow! Indeed I feel these patriots- of which our country is chock full do a lot more harm to the nation as a whole. And it is not only as a nation- as families- as people, as races- we seem very beset by the disease. <BR/>Do not call them the "Taliban" because the Taliban were worse, is a common cry I hear. And I just wonder if people star arguing semantics just because they do not have a coherent argument and are trying to convince themselves.Dr. Ally Critterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04191162451745534259noreply@blogger.com