tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4214931981342744158.post4963631628619750076..comments2015-09-13T13:03:47.360+05:30Comments on The XX Factor: There's no place like home...Surbhihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08164279377538053633noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4214931981342744158.post-78766343497402635162009-04-07T01:58:00.000+05:302009-04-07T01:58:00.000+05:30Smitha:It is indeed happening to so many girls and...Smitha:<BR/>It is indeed happening to so many girls and women. But like all other issues, this one too is brushed under the carpet. The hidden skeleton in the closet often has many a tale to tell. It is just a matter of opening the closet door and facing that skeleton.<BR/>Of course, like most other incidents of harassment and abuse, the blame here too is dumped on to the victim. She asked for it, so she had it coming, isn't it?<BR/>You said, "I can't imagine how that lady managed to come out of it". It was a piece of fiction I wrote, and I just couldn't bear to not write a happy (in relative terms) ending. But just think about the girls it actually has happened or continues to happen to. We cannot even begin to imagine what they must be going through.Surbhihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08164279377538053633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4214931981342744158.post-52183454183636850592009-04-02T20:27:00.000+05:302009-04-02T20:27:00.000+05:30Surbhi, It is scary to think that this must be hap...Surbhi, It is scary to think that this must be happenning to so many young girls - and most of them with no voice, with even mothers refusing to understand.. I had read a book about a girl in the UK, this was around 40 yrs ago, and the social workers to whon she complained to - thought that she was seducing the father!!! An 8 yr old child! I can't imagine how that lady managed to come out of it...Smithahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06168565596774930645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4214931981342744158.post-77751756877598417272009-04-01T10:17:00.000+05:302009-04-01T10:17:00.000+05:30Indyeah:Thanks. I don't know what will be done abo...Indyeah:<BR/>Thanks. I don't know what will be done about incest in India, or even if something ever will (considering all this happens yet we are such prudes to even face anthing even remotely related to 'sex'), but to me this is the most terrifying thing that can ever happen to anyone. To be violated by your closest people... I can not for the life of me imagine how someone could do such a thing.<BR/>Thanks for the hugs. Certainly needed those. Wrote this dark and disgusting story again after the "As my tears flowed" series. Made me feel even worse.<BR/>(((hugs))) Luv ya!Surbhihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08164279377538053633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4214931981342744158.post-19382143213818648632009-04-01T00:53:00.000+05:302009-04-01T00:53:00.000+05:30This was terrifying to read Surbhi..and I just cou...This was terrifying to read Surbhi..and I just couldnt bring myself to write a comment..it was so real...hats off to you for such awesome powerful writing!<BR/><BR/>more such cases are surfacing in India now...they must have always existed but now people are atleast being forced to take another look at this bharatiya samaaj!<BR/><BR/>(((hugs))keep writing just as powerfully!Indyeahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05915739361027887530noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4214931981342744158.post-20552176513035502232009-03-31T12:39:00.000+05:302009-03-31T12:39:00.000+05:30Madhu:Thanks! Yes, this and many other issues have...Madhu:<BR/>Thanks! Yes, this and many other issues have been swept nder the carpet. But this scares me the most, even more than foeticide/ infanticide, because it is something I simply can't comprehend, however much I think about it.<BR/>There are people embarassed to even talk about this, so what type of people (if we call them that) are the ones who actually do it?Surbhihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08164279377538053633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4214931981342744158.post-18657212638653945152009-03-31T12:35:00.000+05:302009-03-31T12:35:00.000+05:30RK:I know you never meant me to apologise. I just ...RK:<BR/>I know you never meant me to apologise. I just wanted you to be sure that disturbing or not, I am proud I wrote about this.<BR/>As I said, I totally understand your point. In fact, if you hadn't felt like this, that would be a concern.<BR/>"... coz i felt i could say ..." You bet you could, and can - always. :)Surbhihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08164279377538053633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4214931981342744158.post-17374014205088594902009-03-31T12:33:00.000+05:302009-03-31T12:33:00.000+05:30Monika:In cases of incest or other forms of abuse ...Monika:<BR/>In cases of incest or other forms of abuse at home, the mother plays the most crucial role. If she shuns the child or hushes him/her up, the child would have no one to go to. M story had a supportive mother only because the alternative would have been too much for me to write about, considering the horror already present in the story.<BR/>"i am still shivering after this post" - I understand. So just think how it felt when I wrote it.Surbhihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08164279377538053633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4214931981342744158.post-47474387350353113722009-03-31T09:18:00.000+05:302009-03-31T09:18:00.000+05:30Surabhi.. Great post..Its an issue that has been s...Surabhi.. Great post..<BR/><BR/>Its an issue that has been swept under the carpet for years. Awareness will only increase if it is being talked about. Believe me, people feel embarrassed even discussing about the news about Josef.<BR/><BR/>Great work..Madhuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13728543500939551690noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4214931981342744158.post-48868131088132521032009-03-31T00:21:00.000+05:302009-03-31T00:21:00.000+05:30I never asked you to be Sorry for writing that Sur...I never asked you to be Sorry for writing that Surbhi, just said as i felt, coz i felt i could say !!<BR/><BR/>Take Care dear !InConvinciblehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02545842118348819283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4214931981342744158.post-11836641650911285882009-03-30T16:53:00.000+05:302009-03-30T16:53:00.000+05:30surubhi,great post and as solilo said its true and...surubhi,<BR/>great post and as solilo said its true and happening and mothers sometime giving in too <BR/><BR/>i am still shivering after this post <BR/><BR/>incest is one of the worst crimes... i know a family in which an uncle, like a mama was sexually abusing both the neice and nephew and when the kids told the mom she asked them to keep quite can u beat that but a father-daughter is beyond imaginationMonikahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02627040210376581730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4214931981342744158.post-373534426047082802009-03-30T10:05:00.000+05:302009-03-30T10:05:00.000+05:30Solilo:I know. That one scared me the most. And th...Solilo:<BR/>I know. That one scared me the most. And they did it to get money!Surbhihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08164279377538053633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4214931981342744158.post-46936149427156228752009-03-30T10:03:00.000+05:302009-03-30T10:03:00.000+05:30RK:I understand. Totally."... something that you'v...RK:<BR/>I understand. Totally.<BR/>"... something that you've posted to vent out your justified anger and concern ..." es. Yu are right. It is just that - because however much I think, I cannot imagine how a father can do this to his own daughter.<BR/>If it arouses disgust in you to just read this, it is only because you, like all of us, think this to be absolutely abhorrent. I tried not to make it sound gross or sickening, but the topic is just so. I was very upset.<BR/>I won't say I'm sorry for writing this, because I'm not. But I do acknowledge it could have been subtl done. Guess I should take cues from IHM, esp. after her latest post.<BR/>Thanks for speaking your mind. I so appreciate that. Constructive criticism always works. And after all, we're all a part of the same blogging community.Surbhihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08164279377538053633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4214931981342744158.post-9579923210087763782009-03-30T03:16:00.000+05:302009-03-30T03:16:00.000+05:30Surbhi, Even though this was a piece of fiction it...Surbhi, Even though this was a piece of fiction it is very much true in many families. It is sickening that there are people who even support incest.<BR/><BR/>So many terrifying stories even the one in India where a mother was party to it too.Solilohttp://mesliloquy.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4214931981342744158.post-15619221985114933842009-03-29T22:48:00.000+05:302009-03-29T22:48:00.000+05:30Hello Surbhi !This work of fiction seems to be som...Hello Surbhi !<BR/><BR/>This work of fiction seems to be something that you've posted to vent out your justified anger and concern.<BR/><BR/>I've loved all your posts before, because i had some idea for their general intended motive, but i am not sure about this one's.<BR/><BR/>I consider our Blog relationship good enough to be able to say this to you: I wasn't comfortable reading some DETAILED(DISGUSTING) parts of your post. I am not that much brave or confident to go that deep in details. I dont like details of such kind. I can however tend to think ahead something to be done to avoid this.<BR/><BR/>Hope you understand dear! Take Care!InConvinciblehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02545842118348819283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4214931981342744158.post-79841375989747729302009-03-29T21:59:00.000+05:302009-03-29T21:59:00.000+05:30RK:Thanks. I know it should be generalised, but af...RK:<BR/>Thanks. I know it should be generalised, but after Josef Fritzl and the other horror dads in India and elsewhere, I wanted to write about fathers raping their own daughters. More than anything, this is a kind of catharsis for me after reading all those terrifying stories of incest.<BR/>Please do visit this post again. Somehow, a disclaimer I'd added had not appeared. Its visible now.Surbhihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08164279377538053633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4214931981342744158.post-79644654355798414902009-03-29T21:56:00.000+05:302009-03-29T21:56:00.000+05:30IHM:Thanks a ton. I wrote this myself. Somehow, a ...IHM:<BR/>Thanks a ton. I wrote this myself. Somehow, a disclaimer I'd added had not appeared. Its visible now.<BR/>The daughter will live, but it'll never be a life. That gets snatched from her the moment her most precious relationship gets vitiated.Surbhihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08164279377538053633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4214931981342744158.post-84601343605873281572009-03-29T19:09:00.000+05:302009-03-29T19:09:00.000+05:30Surbhi !Is this intended for a heartchange of a fa...Surbhi !<BR/><BR/>Is this intended for a heartchange of a father? I believe it won't !<BR/>This shouldn't be restricted to one relationship, but generalized for all sorts.<BR/><BR/>Disgusting! Let the victim forget the past and live, but make others remember and be alert. Life should be taken lightly for self, not for others!InConvinciblehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02545842118348819283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4214931981342744158.post-62146267832030265792009-03-29T11:18:00.000+05:302009-03-29T11:18:00.000+05:30Well written Surbhi. We should all be bogging abou...Well written Surbhi. We should all be bogging about this. I wonder how will that daughter ever live a normal life again.Indian Home Makerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10649133480442907582noreply@blogger.com